Shradh at Varanasi FAQs
What is the significance of Pind Daan specifically during Shradh in Varanasi?
Pind Daan is the heart of the Shradh ritual. The ‘Pinda’ (rice/barley ball) is offered as a symbolic body for the ancestor’s soul (Atma). It is believed that this offering provides nourishment and energy to the departed souls, helping them in their journey after death.
In Varanasi, performing Pind Daan on the banks of the Ganga is exceptionally potent. It is believed that Lord Shiva himself grants liberation to souls whose last rites or Shradh are performed here. This act helps free the ancestors from attachments, sufferings, or unfavorable states (like Preta Yoni) and propels them towards Moksha (liberation), which is the ultimate goal. Offering Pind Daan in Kashi is considered one of the highest duties a descendant can perform for their ancestors.
Are there any specific food restrictions I need to follow strictly during my visit for Shradh?
Yes, maintaining dietary purity is important for the sanctity of the ritual. On the day of Shradh, and ideally during the entire Pitru Paksha, if you are here for that period:
- Strict Vegetarianism: Absolutely avoid all meat, fish, poultry, and eggs.
- Avoid Tamasic/Rajasic Foods: Refrain from consuming onion, garlic, brinjal (eggplant), masoor dal (red lentils), and excessively spicy or oily foods. These are believed to cloud the mind and generate negative energy.
- Avoid Stale Food: Offerings and food consumed should be freshly prepared. Leftover food is considered impure.
- Alcohol and Tobacco: These are strictly prohibited.
- Many devout individuals observe a fast until the Shradh rituals are completed, often eating only one simple meal later in the day. Following these helps maintain the required Sattvic (pure) state of body and mind
Who is traditionally supposed to perform Shradh can women perform it?
Traditionally, the duty falls upon the eldest son (Karta). After marriage, he performs it along with his wife. If the eldest son is not available (deceased or otherwise unable), a younger son can perform it.
In the absence of a son, a grandson (son’s son) can perform the rites. If there are no sons or grandsons, the daughter’s son (dauhitra) holds a very significant right to perform Shradh. Even the brothers of the deceased can perform it if needed.
Regarding women: While the primary responsibility often lies with male descendants, women absolutely can perform Shradh, especially if there are no eligible male members in the immediate family or if they are unable to perform it. There are scriptural examples, like Mata Sita performing Pind Daan for King Dasharatha. In Kashi, we see daughters and wives performing these rites with full reverence and achieving the same merit for their ancestors. Unmarried women, however, are generally advised against performing certain specific elaborate rites like Tripindi Shradh alone, but can participate and perform simpler Shradh or Tarpan.
What should I do after completing the Shradh ritual in Varanasi are there any follow up actions?
After the main Shradh rites (Pind Daan, Tarpan) are completed at the Ghat, and you have offered Dakshina to the Pandit:
- Brahman Bhojan: If part of your Sankalpa, ensure the feeding of Brahmins is completed satisfactorily.
- Pancha Bali: Ensure offerings to the cow, dog, crow, ants, and Devas have been made.
- Holy Dip: Taking another dip in the Ganga after the rituals is customary for purification.
- Temple Visit: Visiting the Kashi Vishwanath Temple and other important temples [9](like Annapurna Mandir, Kalabhairav Mandir) to seek blessings is highly recommended. Dedicate the merit (Punya) of your pilgrimage and rituals to your ancestors.
- Charity (Daan): Giving charity (food, clothes, money) to the needy is considered very meritorious after Shradh.
- Maintain Respect: Continue to maintain a respectful and pious attitude for the remainder of the day.
I heard about scams targeting pilgrims in Varanasi How can I be careful?
Sadly, where there is great faith, sometimes unscrupulous elements also appear. Be watchful:
- Pandit Selection: Don’t blindly trust anyone approaching you aggressively at ghats or stations. Rely on recommendations or book through known temples or reputable services. Discuss everything (procedure, cost, Dakshina) clearly beforehand. Genuine Pandits often have lineage records (Vanshavali) and won’t pressure you excessively for money.
- Ghat Scams: Be wary of people demanding money for watching cremation rituals (especially at Manikarnika), offering unsolicited guidance, or asking for donations for “wood for the poor” – these are often scams. Cremation viewing is generally open, though sensitivity is required.
- Fake Sadhus/Priests: Some may offer quick blessings or apply Tilak and then demand exorbitant sums. Politely decline if you are uncomfortable.
- Boat Rides/Taxis: Fix the price clearly beforehand to avoid disputes later.
- Shopping: Be cautious in shops where guides or drivers insistently take you, as prices might be inflated for commission.
- Use common sense, trust your instincts, and don’t hesitate to walk away from situations that feel wrong. Reputable services (like Pitradev, as mentioned in searches) aim to connect pilgrims with verified Pandits to avoid such issues.
Do I need a Pandit to perform Shradh in Varanasi and how do I find a trustworthy one?
Yes, it is highly recommended to engage a qualified and experienced Pandit (Purohit). Shradh involves specific mantras, procedures, and understanding of lineage (Gotra) which a knowledgeable Pandit can guide you through correctly.[2] Performing the ritual accurately maximizes its benefit for the ancestors.
Finding a Pandit:
- References: Ask for references from your family priest, trusted friends, or relatives who have performed rituals in Varanasi.
- Temple Associated Pandits: Major temples often have associated Pandits.
- Ghat Pandits: You will find many Pandits at the Ghats, but it’s wise to verify their credentials or seek recommendations.
- Reputable Organisations/Services: Several organisations now offer verified Pandit services, sometimes even allowing pre-booking. Do check their reputation. Always discuss the procedure and Dakshina beforehand to avoid confusion. Many Pandits are proficient in various regional languages (like Telugu, Tamil, Marathi, etc.).
Why is Varanasi considered the most auspicious place for performing Shradh?
Kashi is no ordinary city. It is the city of Lord Shiva, the Moksha-Dayini Nagari (city that grants liberation). Performing Shradh here, especially Pind Daan on the banks of Maa Ganga, is believed to grant ultimate peace (Sadgati) and liberation (Moksha) to the departed souls. It is said that ancestors receive immense satisfaction when their descendants perform these rites in Kashi, helping them ascend peacefully to higher realms or even break the cycle of rebirth.The energy of this place, combined with the purity of the Ganga, amplifies the merit of the ritual manifold.
When is the best time to perform Shradh in Varanasi?
- The most significant period is Pitru Paksha, the 16-lunar-day period usually falling in the Hindu month of Bhadrapada (around September-October). Performing Shradh during Pitru Paksha, especially on the Tithi (lunar day) corresponding to the ancestor’s death, is considered highly effective.
- Other auspicious times include the death anniversary (Varshik Shradh), Amavasya (new moon day) of every month, and during specific pilgrimages. However, in Kashi, the merit is such that Shradh can be performed on almost any day with reverence, seeking guidance from a knowledgeable Pandit for the appropriate Muhurta (timing).
Apart from Shradh what other rituals can be done in Varanasi for the peace of a departed loved one?
Varanasi offers many ways to honor the departed:
- Asthi Visarjan: Immersing the ashes (asthi) in the Holy Ganga at Varanasi is considered highly auspicious, aiding the soul’s journey to Moksha.
- Recitation of Scriptures: Arranging for recitation of texts like the Garuda Purana, Bhagavad Gita, or specific Stotrams for the peace of the soul.
- Deep Daan: Offering lamps (diy[5]as) on the Ganga, especially during evenings or specific festivals, in memory of the departed.
- Feeding the Needy/Cows/Animals: Performing Annadaan (food charity) or feeding sacred animals like cows in the name of the ancestor.
- Temple Pujas: Sponsoring specific Pujas or offerings at Kashi Vishwanath or other temples, dedicating the m[12]erit to the ancestor.
- Simply meditating by the Ganga, remembering the loved one, and praying for their peace also carries immense spiritual weight in this holy city.
Can Shradh rituals be performed online or remotely if I cannot travel to Varanasi?
Yes, in recent times, especially for those unable to travel (like NRIs, elderly, or due to health/work constraints), some Pandits and organizations in Varanasi]i offer online Shradh services.
How it works: You provide the necessary details (ancestor names, Gotra, etc.). The Pandit performs the rituals (Pind Daan, Tarpan) on your behalf at the designated Ghat in Varanasi at an agreed time. Often, this is done via live video call (like Zoom, WhatsApp video) so you can witness and participate remotely. They may also send you a recording afterwards.
Reliability: While convenient, ensure you choose a reputable and trustworthy service. Check reviews, ask for references if possible, and confirm exactly what will be performed and how you can participate/verify it. While physical presence holds immense significance, performing the rites remotely with faith is certainly better than not performing them at all, as per interpretations of scriptures like the Garuda Purana allowing rites by proxy