The Hindu calendar’s Kartik month is when the Tulsi plant (holy basil) is ceremonially wed to God Vishnu. In the Padma Puran and other ancient texts, it is mentioned. This ceremony can be done in either October or November, between Prabodhini Ekadashi and Kartik Purnima. The exact Tulsi Vivah day varies depending on the area. The monsoon season, whose impacts on global warming were unknown at the time, comes to a close, and the Hindu wedding season is about to begin.
Tulsi and Jalandhar’s Story – Story of Tulsi Vivah
Tulsi’s first birth was as Vrinda. A girl was born to Mathura’s king, Daityaraj Kalnemi. They gave her the name Vrinda. She grew up worshipping Vishnu and became a devotee. Vrinda married Jalandhar, a demon when she was an adult.
Lastly, a word about Jalandhar. Lord Shiva’s third eye was opened after he became enraged with Indra in a separate situation. Lord Shiva received an apology from Guru Brahaspati and was implored to pardon Indra. Lord Shiva then released the fire from his eye into the water. A boy was born out of it. This kid grew up to be the formidable demon king, Jalandhar. Jalandhar was also the name of his capital.
Jalandhar staked his claim to the jewels that were being churned out of the ocean after emerging from the water. The gods disregarded his assertion. Jalandhar declared war and put the Devas that were being churned out of the ocean after emerging from the water. The gods disregarded his assertion. Jalandhar declared war and put the Devas (Gods) in jeopardy. He received the blessing that death could not touch him while his wife Vrinda was celibate, so no one could kill him.
The violent conflict continued. The Devas enlisted Vishnu’s assistance. Despite wanting to aid them, Vishnu could not kill Jalandhar due to a vow he made to his wife Lakshmi, who regarded Jalandhar as a sibling because he was also created from the ocean like her. As a result of the Asuras’ (demons’) victory against the Devas, Jalandhar rose to power as the ruler of heaven, earth, and pataal (the netherworld).
The Sage Narad was consulted by the Devas. Plan B was developed. As a result, Narad travelled to Jalandhar and purposefully went into great detail during the discourse about how Shiva had the most beautiful bride, Parvati, and the most beautiful place in Kailash as his dwelling. Jalandhar was egotistical and felt compelled to fulfil all of his desires. He acquired Shiva’s wife as well as his home out of passion and ego.
A fierce conflict broke out once more. Jalandhar had mastered the transformation. He went to Parvati to deceive her while the battle was still going on while dressing as Shiva. She recognised him after recognising his disguise. He managed to flee as she attacked. Then, after being upset, Parvati went to Vishnu and asked him to trick Vrinda the same way Jalandhar had tried to trick her.
Vrinda would sit and do pooja (prayer) every time Jalandhar went to war, resolved to remain a suhagan. She didn’t leave the puja until he returned home. She has been occupied once again with her pooja for her husband’s success and long life. Vishnu was invited to step in by the Devas. Vishnu had a problem. He had Vrinda as a follower. He simply was unable to trick her. But the Devas encouraged him once again. He then went to Jalandhar’s palace under the guise of Jalandhar. Vrinda stood up from her puja when she saw him and touched his feet.
As a result, Vrinda’s vow was broken, and her husband died in the conflict. He was slain by Lord Shiva. The head of Jalandhar was hurled into their palace. She was perplexed and asked in a firm voice, “Who is standing before me?” as she turned to face her husband. Have I touched anyone? Vishnu assumed his former form in a bashful manner.
Vrinda realised that he had played a trick on her. She was enraged by this trick. Given that stones have no feelings, she cursed Vishnu to change into a stone, which was appropriate given how he had acted. Lord Vishnu then turned into stone or Shaligram. Everything in creation is tipped out of balance. Lakshmi and all the other gods begged Vrinda to reverse her curse. She retracted her curse for the benefit of her creation. To his credit, Vishnu accepted his punishment without complaining, even after she took it back.
Vrinda burned herself alive in the fire while holding her husband’s head in her lap. From her ashes, a plant emerged. It was given the name Tulsi by Vishnu. He declared that Shaligram, the name of one of his forms (the stony one), would always be worshipped alongside Tulsi. Every home will have a location where Tulsi can be worshipped. Tulsi should be the first offering made to him; otherwise, he won’t accept the others. From then on, it was common to hold a Tulsi vivah in the month of Kartik to honour Tulsi.
Honoring Tulsi Vivah
For the sake of their husbands and other family members, married ladies observe a fast and perform the Tulsi Vivah. To obtain the Punya of Kanyadaan, the daughterless couples pay for the arrangements. Widows are not permitted to attend these festivities. The Vivah is held in residences, temples, and, depending on the time, halls and hotels as well.